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文長，重點已上色。
台灣442萬不婚不生族，其中的千禧一代觀念不同。

1. 晚婚不是不在乎婚，而是更在乎婚姻。牢固人生基礎後，最後一步才結婚，避免離婚。

2. 就像現代社會的童年和青春期變得更長一樣，求愛和通向承諾的道路也越來越漫長。

3. 千禧一代，稍微更有可能會從「炮友」關係發展為戀愛或忠誠堅定的親密關係。

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1.媒體來源:
紐約時報 2018年6月6日
https://nyti.ms/2ABtUUk 中英文版
https://bit.ly/2CWj1hy 新聞影片

2.完整新聞標題:
快性，慢愛：為什麼千禧一代越來越晚結婚？
Put a Ring on It? Millennial Couples Are in No Hurry?


3.完整新聞內文:

The millennial generation’s breezy approach to sexual intimacy helped give
rise to apps like Tinder and made phrases like “hooking up” and “friends
with benefits” part of the lexicon.
千禧一代對待性親密的輕鬆態度助長了Tinder這些應用的出現，也造就了「勾搭」和「炮
友」之類的詞彙。


But when it comes to serious lifelong relationships, new research suggests,
millennials proceed with caution.
但新的研究表明，涉及到會持續終身的嚴肅關係時，千禧一代會謹慎行事。


Helen Fisher, an anthropologist who studies romance and a consultant to the
dating site Match.com, has come up with the phrase “fast sex, slow love” to
describe the juxtaposition of casual sexual liaisons and long-simmering
committed relationships.
研究愛情的人類學家、約會網站Match.com顧問海倫· 費舍爾(Helen Fisher)提出了「快
性，慢愛」這一說法，用來描述隨便的性關係和慢慢積累的忠誠關係的並列。


Young adults are not only marrying and having children later in life than
previous generations, but taking more time to get to know each other before
they tie the knot. Indeed, some spend the better part of a decade as friends
or romantic partners before marrying, according to new research by eHarmony,
another online dating site.




The eHarmony report on relationships found that American couples aged 25 to
34 knew each other for an average of six and a half years before marrying,
compared with an average of five years for all other age groups.
eHarmony網站的感情報告發現，年齡在25到34歲的美國夫婦在婚前的相識時間平均為六年
半，相較而言，其他年齡組平均為五年。


The report was based on online interviews with 2,084 adults who were either
married or in long-term relationships, and was conducted by Harris
Interactive. The sample was demographically representative of the United
States for age, gender and geographic region, though it was not nationally
representative for other factors like income, so its findings are limited.
But experts said the results accurately reflect the consistent trend toward
later marriages documented by national census figures.
這份報告基於對2084名已婚或處在長期關係的成人的線上採訪，採訪由哈利斯互動公司



Julianne Simson, 24, and her boyfriend, Ian Donnelly, 25, are typical. They
have been dating since they were in high school and have lived together in
New York City since graduating from college, but are in no rush to get
married.
24歲的朱莉安· 西姆森(Julianne Simson)和男友伊恩· 唐納利(Ian Donnelly)就是典型
。他們從高中就開始約會，大學畢業後便一起住在紐約，但並不著急結婚。


Ms. Simson said she feels “too young” to be married. “I’m still figuring
out so many things,” she said. “I’ll get married when my life is more in
order.”
西姆森表示，她覺得自己「還太年輕」，不適合結婚。「我還在想很多事情，」她說。「
我會在生活更有序的時候結婚。」


She has a long to-do list to get through before then, starting with the
couple paying down student loans and gaining more financial security. She’d
like to travel and explore different careers, and is considering law school.
在那之前，她還有一大堆事情要完成，首先，這對情侶要還清學費貸款，獲得更多的經濟
保障。她還想去旅行，探索不同的職業，還在考慮去上法學院。


"Since marriage is a partnership, I’d like to know who I am and what I’m
able to offer financially and how stable I am, before I’m committed legally
to someone,” Ms. Simson said. “My mom says I’m removing all the romance
from the equation, but I know there’s more to marriage than just love. If it
’s just love, I’m not sure it would work.”



Sociologists, psychologists and other experts who study relationships say
that this practical no-nonsense attitude toward marriage has become more the
norm as women have piled into the work force in recent decades. During that
time, the median age of marriage has risen to 29.5 for men and 27.4 for women
in 2017, up from 23 for men and 20.8 for women in 1970.



Both men and women now tend to want to advance their careers before settling
down. Many are carrying student debt and worry about the high cost of housing.
現在，男人和女人都傾向於在安定下來之前先發展自己的事業。許多人背負著學費債務，
擔心著高房價。


They often say they would like to be married before starting a family, but
some express ambivalence about having children. Most important, experts say,
they want a strong foundation for marriage so they can get it right — and
avoid divorce.



“People are not postponing marriage because they care about marriage less,
but because they care about marriage more,” said Benjamin Karney, a
professor of social psychology at the University of California, Los Angeles.



Andrew Cherlin, a sociologist at Johns Hopkins, calls these “capstone
marriages.” “The capstone is the last brick you put in place to build an
arch,” Dr. Cherlin said. “Marriage used to be the first step into
adulthood. Now it is often the last.



“For many couples, marriage is something you do when you have the whole rest
of your personal life in order. Then you bring family and friends together to
celebrate.”
「對很多夫妻來說，婚姻是你把個人生活的其他方面都捋順之後才做的事。到那時，你把
家人和朋友聚到一起慶祝。」


Just as childhood and adolescence are becoming more protracted in the modern
era, so is courtship and the path to commitment, Dr. Fisher said.
費舍爾表示，就像現代社會的童年和青春期變得更長一樣，求愛和通向承諾的道路也越來
越漫長。


“With this long pre-commitment stage, you have time to learn a lot about
yourself and how you deal with other partners. So that by the time you walk
down the aisle, you know what you’ve got, and you think you can keep what you
’ve got,” Dr. Fisher said.



Most singles still yearn for a serious romantic relationship, even if these
relationships often have unorthodox beginnings, she said. Nearly 70 percent
of singles surveyed by Match.com recently as part of its eighth annual report
on singles in America said they wanted a serious relationship.



The report, released earlier this year, is based on the responses of over
5,000 people 18 and over living in the United States and was carried out by
Research Now, a market research company, in collaboration with Dr. Fisher and
Justin Garcia of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. As with eHarmony
’s report, its findings are limited because the sample was representative
for certain characteristics, like gender, age, race and region, but not for
others like income or education.



Participants said serious relationships started one of three ways: with a
first date; a friendship; or a “friends with benefits” relationship,
meaning a friendship with sex. But millennials were slightly more likely than
other generations to have a friendship or a friends with benefits
relationship evolve into a romance or a committed relationship.



Over half of millennials who said they had had a friends with benefits
relationship said it evolved into a romantic relationship, compared with 41
percent of Gen Xers and 38 percent of baby boomers. And some 40 percent of
millennials said a platonic friendship had evolved into a romantic
relationship, with nearly one-third of the 40 percent saying the romantic
attachment grew into a serious, committed relationship.





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